Lesson 33: Year End Review

Extentions
Match the appropriate Habit from the list on the right with each statement

Sharpen the saw or quadrant 2
Seek first to understand then to be understood
Synergize
Think win-win
Emotional bank account or EBA
Begin with the end in mind
Put first things first
Be proactive

• Watch the sunset tonight or get up early and watch the sunrise.
Sharpen the Saw
• People-watch at your local mall or store and observe what their body language is saying.
Seek first to understand then to be understood
• Brainstorm with your friends and come up with something fun, new, and different to do this weekend, instead of doing the same old thing again and again.
Synergize
• The next time someone close to you succeeds, be genuinely happy for him or her instead of feeling threatened.
Think win-win
• Before heading to bed, write a simple apology note to someone you may have offended recently.
Be proactive
• Identify and write down your goals so that you can work towards them.
Begin with the End in Mind
• Decide to start using your planner to get your time better planned.
Begin with the End in Mind
• Push the pause button before you react to someone who accidentally bumps you in the hall, causing all of your books for the next class to fly in all directions.
Begin with the end in mind
Family Reflections
Review the 7 Habits' with your family. Are there any Habits that seem to be more challeng­ ing to you than others? How can you work as a team to incorporate all of the Habits into your lives?

I personally think Synergizing is hardest. When a person wants one thing and another person wants another thing, it's hard to combine where they want to go. For example, if I want to go to PNE and my mother wants to go to the Vancouver Museum on the same day, it's hard to find where we want to go. In the end, we just decided to go to PNE that day and go to the Vancouver Museum another day. That is half win-lose and half win-win.

Lesson 32: Review III

There are no extentions for this lesson.
Family Reflections:
What concept or weekly lesson has your family most benefited from? Reflect on how it has been good for you and your family relationships.
we watch a lot of tv together, and we laugh as we watch tv.

Lesson 31: Four Areas of Renewal

Extentions

BODY

My diet is varied and I exercise 30 minutes of day by powerwalking to school and back.

HEART

I like to observe what people are wearing when im outside alone, waiting for a bus or sitting on a bus.

BRAIN

I like to read and do daily blogs.

SOUL
I sometimes meditate / do yoga.

Family Reflections:

Go around and rate each family mem­ber on how well you all renew yourselves in the four areas.

Body: Mom & Dad - they eat pretty well, with all varieties of food. but i dont think they exercise enough. 10/10

Heart: My mom observes people too much.she always has negative things to say about people. my dad's just quite about other people. Mom: 8/10 Dad: 7/10

Brain: they dont read much and they dont write journals. my mom's usually so busy making her own clothes. Mom: 8/10 (designing clothing takes brainwork too) Dad: 7/10 (i dont think watching a lot of tv takes brainwork)

Soul: they dont do yoga. 5/10

Lesson 30: Personal Renewal

Extensions

1) Read the following story and respond on the lines below how this story can be related to keeping ourselves fit in all areas of life.

You are walking through the woods one day and come upon a lumberjack who's furiously working at cutting fallen trees into logs. You notice that he's having a very difficult time of it. It seems to you that the chain on his chainsaw has become so dull that the saw barely cuts at all.
You ask him why he doesn't sharpen his chain. He replies, "I've got to get these logs cut. I can't take the time to sharpen my saw."The man didn't realize that if he'd just taken a few minutes to sharpen his tool, cutting through the tree trunks would have required much less of his time and energy.

Physical: hes forcing himself to cut the wood even though it's not possible
Mental: he thinks that if he takes the time to sharpen his saw, then he wouldn't have enough time to cut down the trees
Spiritual: he keeps encouraging himself to finish cutting
Social/Emotional: he's frustrated

Family Reflections

What does your family do to renew and refresh the health of your relationships? Plan an outing or a family fun night.
My family likes to do things together such as swimming, skating, and going on an outing trip.
A Family Fun Night:
I want to gather around our living room and play chess with my mom this sunday night, after dinner. My dad could help me play, since he always does :D

Lesson 29: Synergy in Action (Part 2)

Extensions

Draw TEAM

Family Reflections:

How can members of your family help you achieve better results in school?

They can encourage me to get more sleep instead of studying through the night so that i wouldnt be tired on the day of my test. They can also give me advice on my homework and play tennis with me in the tennis court.

Lesson 28: Synergy in Action (Part 1)

Extentions

1) Work out a "want" list with someone else for an agreement that you're trying to reach with someone. Then, make a list of possible "third alternative" solutions that would be good for both parties.
Issue:

Their "want" list
the car has to be blue
has to be Ford
has to have a CD-player
has to be 2002 or newer

My "want" list
the car has to be silver
has to be Toyota
has to have air conditioning
has to be 2004 or newer

Their "don't want" list
1. They don’t want a van
2. They don’t want a Toyota

My "don't want" list
I don’t want a van
I don’t want a ford

Third alternatives
The car could be black or red
It could be Honda
I could have both air conditioning and a CD-player
It could be 2003 and newer
It could be a normal small car

Family Reflections
Are there any unresolved issues in your home that could use some synergy? Walk through the steps to synergy or see if you can come to a solution that makes everyone happy.

The issue is listed above. My parents had a car crash and are now debating about what kind of car to get next. I don't mind a Ford, but I would personally rather a Honda or a Toyota.

Lesson 27: Synergy Action Plans

Extentions:

CRITICIZING

This car does not play CDs.

COMPLAINING

This car does not have air conditioning.

COMPARING

That car has both air conditioning and the ability to play CDs.

COMPETING

That car is more of my preference than this car.

Family Refections

Choose a recent decision you and your family made that had everyone's input. Did you synergize or compromise?

We mostly compromised. The car my mom wanted to buy was a Ford Focus, but my dad wanted to get a Toyota Camry. All I wanted was a car with good air-conditioning and audio equipment. My dad and my mom settled for whatever car seems more durable when they buy it.

Lesson 26: Synergize

HANDOUT

1) Write down an important issue that you, your community, your school, or your family is facing right now. Maybe it's bullying at school, a dress code, or a community issue.

Issue/problem:

My family is facing the issue of speaking English properly.

Organize a group of four or five people to discuss the issue you chose. Individually, think of ways to improve or change the problem.

1. Fill in the thought bubbles below with the different solutions each of you come up with.

I can speak English with them

They can watch English TV shows

They can go out more and talk to different people in English

They can go to a community centre and practice their English with random people

2. Use your imagination to brainstorm new ideas.

They can speak English to each other.

3. Together decide which solution will make the biggest difference. Write your group's idea in the solution box

Me speaking English to them on a daily basis makes the biggest difference.

Family Refelctions

Is there anyone in your extended family that you could get along with better? What can you do to start making things better between the two of you?

I can talk more with my grandmothers. I don't usually talk to my grandmother on my father's side, and I'll like to talk to her more often. One problem is, I'll have to be more fluent in Mandarin. I suppose I can phone her and practice my mandarin with her.

Lesson 25 Review 2

LESSON 25: Decide as a family to model "clear communication" this week, in other words, attentively listening, using appropriate body language, and speaking calmly. Discuss with each other the difference clearly communicating made on your household.

They will clear up misunderstandings that often occur betwee us. They will also help us understand each other's problems.

Lesson 24: Accepting Life's Turns

Extentions
there are no extentions for lesson 24.

Family Reflections
Review the effectiveness of Z's communication in the video. What are examples of the ways your family communicates with one another effectively? In what instances are your family's communications ineffective?
My familiy really bursts out when they're angry, but we communicate to each other quite effectively. Like most other teens, I try not listen to my mom when she yells at me, but she still gets her point into my head.

Lesson 23: Clear Communication

Extensions

People-watch

Find a place where you'll see a lot of people. Based on what you are observing, how important is nonverbal communication?

its very important. if you see a person that you know, you can just nod ur head in acknowledgment. u can see someone is troubled by the look on their face.

Family Reflections

What are some of the nonverbal ways your family communicates, e.g.., body language & attitude? How do you all interpret those signals?

i stick my tongue out and that is a signal for my parents to stop yelling at me. they usually don't though.

Lesson 22: Genuine Listening

HANDOUT

Translate this...

A translator helps people who speak different languages to understand each other. On the lines below, describe a situation that you feel strongly about and are willing to discuss with others. For example: angry about your unfair curfew. In groups of three, tell your story. One person will play the role of the Translator and listen genuinely to the emotional content and words. The Translator will then convey your feelings and words to the third person who will give a mirroring response back to you. When you have finished, switch roles so that each person gets to play the role of the Translator.

One thing I feel very strongly about is the amount of homework for high school students. Most of the time, they are jam-packed with homework, where finishing it means no sleep. They need to procrastinate every time and need to use every second of their time possible. The remaining time, they just sit around watching TV, as if they had no homework. The truth is, they do have homework, but it’s so little that they forget all about it. I think teachers should even out the amount of homework as much as possible, and only give the students maximum 1.5 hours of homework per day.

FAMILY REFLECTIONS

Get your family together and decide to practice listening with your heart this week. Discuss among your family how you all feel when you're really listened to.

OK, i'll do that during dinner.

Lesson 21: Listening Skills

HANDOUT
Translate this...
A translator helps people who speak different languages to understand each other. On the lines below, describe a situation that you feel strongly about and are willing to discuss with others. For example: angry about your unfair curfew.
Oh my gosh!!! There’s so much homework in high school!! It is as if the teachers want the students to have sleepless nights just to finish their homework. Take me for example. It took me the whole day yesterday to finish the project, and we were given a very short period to actually type the stuff.
In groups of three, tell your story. One person will play the role of the Translator and listen genuinely to the emotional content and words. The Translator will then convey your feelings and words to the third person who will give a mirroring response back to you.When you have finished, switch roles so that each person gets to play the role of the Translator

Family Reflections

LESSON 21: As a family, do you sometimes find yourselves not listening to each other? Does your family use some of the same inattentive listening styles that you saw on the video?

Yes, I find that I don't listen to my father very much when he rants on about electricity. He loves electricity somehow...I know he's trying to teach my stuff, but I can NOT understand all that he says. its just soo boring.

Lesson 20: Win-Win Agreements

Party 1:Karen Party 2:Wendy

What are the desired results?
To be able to watch a movie and go shopping on Friday
2. What are the available resources?
2 Free Movie tickets, money
3. What are the guidelines?
My parents drive us to Metrotown at 7 o’clock, and we come back after the movie
4. How will progress be seen? accountability?
When we are watching the movie and shopping
5. What are the consequences/ benefits if completed or not?
We would be happy!!! That is, if it is completed. If it isn’t completed, we’ll be sad

Family Reflections

LESSON 20: Are there any situations at home that could benefit or be guided more clearly by drawing up a win-win agreement?
Some situations are when I want to do something I want and my mom won't let me. For example, I want to watch a movie on pro-d day on this upcoming friday. To make up for that, I'll play an extra 20 minutes of piano everyday. My mom would be satisfied with that.

Lesson 19 Win-Win Agreements

LESSON 19: How can you help each other continue to think and practice win-win?

we can help each other continue to think and pracitce win-win by helping each other out, so that we could both win at the same time. like, when you study for a test, you could ask for a friend to test you, and you could test them back. yah..

Lesson 18: Win-Win Thinking

Extentions

Read the following situations and decide who wins and who loses.
1. Kevin and Terry are suspended for fighting in class.

Kevin: lose Terry: lose

2. Patti wants to take the car to pick up her friends for a game. Patti's mom needs the car to pick up groceries and the repaired TV set. Patti ends up taking the car.

Patti: win Patti's mom: lose

3. Brad wants to go watch a movie with Jill. Jill wants to hang out with Brad but wants to go for dinner. They decide to rent a movie and get take-out.

Brad: win Jill: win
4. Sylvesta, a junior, just won the Basketball MVP award for the year. Mikey, a senior, is ripped because he thought he was a shoo-in for the award. The next day Mikey starts a false rumor about Sylvesta's training methods.
Mikey: lose Sylvesta: lose

5. Jeremy sees Sonny is close to putting the final touches on his rebuilt carburetor in shop class. A minute later, Jeremy finds himself "accidentally pushed" into Sonny's work station. After apologizing and helping Sonny pick up the pieces, Jeremy goes back to his near-finished project.

Jeremy: win Sonny: lose

Family Reflections
Choose one relationship in your immediate (sister, mother, etc..) or extended (uncle, cousin, etc..) family and identify the attitude of interaction under which you operate.
I'll choose my mother. We argue with each other a lot, but she usually is the one who gets me to do stuff because I feel guilty when I win the arguement. So basically, when we fight, I win with the words, but end up doing what she wants me to do. Then again, she does a lot of stuff, like cooking, dish-washing, and cleaning. all the stuff that i dont like to do. well, actually, my dad does half of it, but i almost never do chores. im spoiled yay!!!

Lesson 17: Big Rock Planning

Extentions:
Fill in the following column with a list of activities that you do in a typical day.
Reading
Sleep
Homework
School
Eat
Watch TV
Go on MSN
Surf the Internet
Walk to school
Listen to music

List your five most important activities.
School
Homework
Sleep
Eat
Watching TV

Family Reflections
Your family is a priority! Break open your schedules as a family and plan some quality time together.
My mom and dad have lots of free time. I can just finish my homework faster and not go on MSN so much so that we could go shopping together or something. We could also go to the Van Dusen Botanical Gardens. Well, I could also eat faster and not watch TV at the same time.

Lesson 16: Roles and Goals

Note to Mr. Olson: I cannot do the online test. it's all screwed up. Whenever I click on lesson 16, the test appears, but immediately shrinks back. I kept clicking on it...and it kept shrinking back.
Extentions:
Roles:

Daughter: I’ll try to do more chores for them and try to solve an argument effectively with them.

Student: I’ll try not the procrastinate and do my best on every assignment and test.

Piano player: I’ll practice 2 hours everyday until the grade 8 exam (next Friday), and after that, I’ll try to practice 1 hour per day.

Violin player: I’ll try to practice 20 minutes everyday though I am not likely to.

Friend: I’ll find more topic to talk about with friends

Family Reflections:

Have every family member choose one role that relates to your family (e.g.., son, sister, father); set a goal that will have a positive impact in that relationship.

My mom can set a goal not to get angry at my dad for a week. I can set a goal not to hog the computer so much. My dad can set a goal to keep his stuff off the living room.

Lesson 15: the Matrix

Extentions
1) Where have you spent your time?
I spend most of my time sleeping, doing homework, and in school.

1. What title goes here? 2. What title goes here?
Important Urgent Important not Urgent

3. What title goes here? 4. What title goes here?
Not important Urgent Not important Not Urgent

Where are the majority of your activities? How much time do they take each week? What activities could you cut back on or cut out altogether to spend more time in quadrant 2?
The majority of my activities are either at home or at school. I can cut back my time on the internet to spend some more time on homework or on friendship
Family Reflections
LESSON 15: Get everyone in the family to catego­rize into the Time Matrix the time they spent during the last couple of days. How can you each spend more time in Quadrant II?
My mom spends 1/3rd of her day at work. She spends the rest sleeping or doing her hobbies.
My dad also spends 1/3rd of his day at work. He then gets home and all he does is eat and sleep.
I spend 1/4th of my day at school, then I use 1/6th of my day doing homework. After that, I play the piano, sleep, and eat.
I can use some time to help people instead of watching TV.

Lesson 14: Priorities

LESSON 14:Priorities

HANDOUT

Planning for Improvement

What do you spend your time doing?

Fill out Column A by estimating how much time you spend each day in the various categories. Remember, your total hours must add up to 24!

After filling in Column A on your own, discuss, with a partner or in groups, where you might be able to save some time or spend it more effectively.

Finally, set time goals based on the suggestions you received.

CATEGORY	A) ACTUAL TIME USED PRESENTLY	B) TIME SUGGESTED BY MY GROUP	C) MY TIME MANAGEMENT GOAL
Sleeping/Resting	8 Hrs.	9 Hrs.	9 Hrs.
Dressing/Hygiene	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
Eating	2 Hrs.	2 Hrs.	2 Hrs.
Travel	0 Hrs.	0 Hrs.	0.5 Hours
Classes	7 Hrs.	7 Hrs.	7 Hrs.
Extra Curricular	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
Work	0 Hrs.	? Hrs. Too young	0 Hrs.
Chores	0 Hrs.	0 Hours	0.5 Hrs.
Appointments	0 Hrs.	0 Hrs.	0 Hrs.
Study Time	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
Homework Time	3.5 Hrs.	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
Volunteering	0 Hrs.	1 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
Leisure Time	0.5 Hrs.	2 Hrs.	1 Hrs.
TOTAL	24 Hrs	24 Hrs	24 Hrs

Family Reflections
LESSON 14: Sit down and discuss some things that are important to each member in your family. How can you help each other accomplish these things?
My mom and dad want to watch tv and do their hobbies when they're not at work. I want to finish my homework as fast and efficiently as possible. We could just mind our own businesses to do the things we want to do. My mom and dad sometimes will help me do my homework, but they don't need help to watch TV.